How do people Read you? Is that Right?

More than ever, people need to know what you are about.
How are you communicating this?
Can people pick up on the right stuff ...or worse do they not care?

Ask yourself if people you meet or e-chat with can answer these questions accurately
that they are asking about you?:

Can I Trust You?
Are Committed to being the best?
Do you care about me?

In Assembling your next action steps, reflect on Michael Jackson's Man in the Mirror song where he sets to change the world by starting with himself.

Are you moving upward & Forward in your Life/ Business?
Have you given an open/outward sign of Committment?
Are you Learning & Evolving everyday?
Are you seeking to understand what others want and need--If they know.

We live better lives when we serve to improve the lives of others.
First they have to give you a chance by us answering the above questions correctly from their perception.

Set some milestones---
So Then ask'em "How my doing?"

Is That Necessary?

Ever asked to fill out a form for something you just asked for? Ever have to wait while someone asks a supervisor? Ever hear "It will have to be approved"?

You are experiencing an age old form of politics--Justification.

This "Justification" is put in place when:
someone is afraid to empower subordinates,
someone feels they must show or prove they add value (usually because they do not)
there is really not real function someone fulfills so they are creating work for the rest of us in attempt to create job security for themselves.

Had a Boss tell my peer one time,"You can't always be working toward something--eventually somethin's got to get done!" If you find yourself around those people--It is your duty and oobligation to the free world to expose them and their false work and streamline and create real productivity.

Unite successful people of the World and make things happen.
Make tasks simple to be brilliant
Quick to be useful
Relevant to be valued

Create, Connect, Evolve!

Why do they do that? Is that taught somewhere?

This weekend I saw a manager yelling at an employee in a gym.
Even in corporate offices I am astounded to see some behavior that does not do ANY good to ANY one. With all the resources and books available in the world, why do people still behave in ways that never work?

Sometimes people in roles are fearful to stand up to this behavior. Not in a challanging matter but in a respect manner. Look that ego pompus stuff is not taught by any credible source. So we should let the lack of controlled emotions purge-then address that no one ever responds well to that behavior. Short term, someone may tolerate it or confuse it with a need to pleas--but the right thing is:
1. address it directly
2 address it with superiors
3 get out.--you and everyone is worth more than that and that guy was an inexperienced, personal issues burdened, I.D. 10-T.

Here is what I want to tell the manager:
You will never excel with people willing to take that behavior and you need to address your issues elsewhere on your own time.
Here is what successful managers do:
1.Make people feel significant and valued
2.Empower people to reach goals and contribute
3. Challenge people to be and do more-positively

Exception: Military training to break down individuals so they can be rebuilt better and as a team--but the business world is rarely Life or death instant instinct stuff so keep it where it belongs--battlefields

It's about people

A few months ago, I got to be part of a group of Major corporations c-level executives planning retreat. We were placed in groups of 7 to 8 people and asked to solve this question:
"What can Corporations and executives do to restore confidence and trust with consumers and the public?"

The answers remarkably all represented this theme:
Treat people with respect again. Treat them with their interest in mind and not just our (company) own short term self interests. An example is to put "people" on the phone again--not mechanized voices and a 100 choices and speak understandably and have freedom to think and decide -off script. The second solution was to start by restoring respect to your own employees-they see when greed is at work -decisions are short term and if the investments are in durability of people or deniable plausability for selfish, shortsighted actions.

Furthermore, I add that it starts with us. We know when the "emperor has no clothes" and we need the courage of conviction to start admitting and declaring when "that' not right"--moreover--do what's right to make it right.

Don't know what's right?--stay tuned

Where are people skills headed?

Do you agree that there is a rising deficit of people skills? It starts with courtesy and respect and evolves to the understanding that we benefit most by helping others benefit.

So many people are openly selfish, rude or maybe (as I prefer to think) just unaware of people and consideration for others around them.

This site will focus on the interaction of people and the skills to best exude as we live, leisure, learn, and apply our skills at work.

Step one & two:
1. do not react right away, attempt empathy
2. just smile

The best arrives when relaxed

Okay, again and again it is better to relax.
Sports performance is more flexible and faster.
Decisions are clearer and more succinct.
You are recieved by others better ( nobody like to watch a nervous performer or interview)
But it is natural to be a little nervous and improves performance or at least prevents getting too relaxed.

Only practice and internal evaluation will teach you awareness and right adjustments for you.

Really, What are they thinking?

Managers, Executives, Politicians. Too many of them are not thinking before they speak. Does everybody think we don't remember earlier stuff they said? Am I the only one who discredits people who change position with every latest development? Take a stand people. Be a leader,

Decision by committee stinks without a person who takes responsibility. How do we restore the admirableness of noble leadership and deciaion making in a world where "ninnies" are listened to more that credible people.

Blog replies so we can all be assured again thatthere is still strength in America.